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It is every parents’ desire to see their kids grow up to be responsible, respectful, loving, compassionate, grateful, and God-fearing people. If they fail, we, as parents feel that we have failed too.
Do we start loving them less when they stray? The answer is NO. But we need to let them learn from their mistakes when they trip and fall. We have to let them know the consequences of their actions, and when they compromise with their judgment. And as good parents, we need to let our children pick up the pieces, figure things out, and learn on their own on how it is to live in the real world, away from the protective cloak we have covered them while they were young.
We call it “tough love” but it is LOVE, nonetheless.
Some parents go easy with their kids when they stray. Some are strict and disciplinarians only because they want to correct and address the bad behaviour, the wrong doings, the untoward character that could blossom into ungodly behaviours if left unattended. Does that make them bad parents?
Kids these days think they have everything figured out. I appreciate the younger generation’s point of view, and logical approach to situations in life. However, let us not forget the values that these younger generation are forgetting. It is acceptable to have a different opinion on many things in life, but when someone questions our authority as parents, our expectations, our aspirations for our children’s future and well-being, and when someone tells us how we should be as parents, then you have definitely crossed the LINE.
This is for the younger generation of this millennia who think, talk, and feel that they know it all, “UNTIL YOU ARE NOT A PARENT, DO NOT LECTURE US ON HOW TO BE ONE.”
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You can say these things again sis. I am experiencing these with my tweens at home. Sometimes they think they know everything! Those behaviour does not pass with me though, I am like my father, a disciplinarian.
August 5, 2016 at 7:38 pmThey think they know it all sis…
August 6, 2016 at 1:43 pmIt is hard I guess to say what you would like to have for your children, others don’t understand and some would interpret it. We would want them to be responsible and know exactly about life, it just too disappointing for others who doesn’t seem to understand your perspective about it.
August 6, 2016 at 9:02 pmWell said sis… Agree!
August 8, 2016 at 9:01 pmReally, sometimes, it’s very hard to decipher the new generation, but as parent, we are the knowledgeable to instill the very core of parenting and educating them. Give and take in some other ways but gaining strength within…..for them, the why and how to be a confident person.
August 7, 2016 at 1:33 amNot easy being a parent. I have two young boys and I find it very challenging. I always pray that they will grow up to be wonderful individuals. Well, we can only do our best and hope.
August 7, 2016 at 11:26 amOur children are our reflection. Their characters are definitely our mirror.
August 7, 2016 at 3:25 pmYes, I’ve gone through this with my eldest who did realize the value of what I was teaching her when she became a parent herself. I’m preparing myself though for my 2 younger children. Hopefully, I can do it better this time.
August 7, 2016 at 9:06 pmI think our learning curve as parents will always be there. We can only hope and pray that what we’ve taught them will be used to good.
August 8, 2016 at 9:00 pmI am always on the tough love. that’s always the best lesson we can give to our kids. Whenever they experience difficulties in life and we support them out with tough love, they’ll eventually learn how to figure things out. I am a proud child who was been raised by a tough love!
August 8, 2016 at 9:09 amAt least you’ve learned the values of tough love sis. I hope the younger generation will appreciate that kind of tough love.
August 8, 2016 at 8:59 pmIt’s hard to choose if you’ll give tough love or not. I’m not the strict type of parents and most often than not I end up just talking to my child when I’m trying to correct her wrongs.
August 11, 2016 at 4:32 amI am guilty as charged! 🙁 I never really knew what it’s like to be a parent until I became one recently. It’s not easy but I am openly accepting the challenge. Like every mothers, I hope and pray that my son will grow up to be a decent man armed with all the proper values and wisdom he needs to conquer life’s hills and hurdles.
August 11, 2016 at 5:31 amuh huh uh huh uh huh! I definitely agree naku i think it is usually a mother-daughter dilemma. sometimes I would catch my daughter rolling her eyes on me which really irks me to death but what I do instead of getting all muddled up is to roll my eyes too in front of her and tell her “so how are you gonna get your allowance for next week duh?!” hahaha
August 12, 2016 at 8:10 amAy sis, I wish they never did those kinds of stuff. Aside from the unwarranted gestures, meron pa silang emo-emo na nalalaman. Ewan ko ba naman, di naman ako lumaking may teen angst.
August 15, 2016 at 4:54 pm