Falling in love is an easy thing but staying in love is a different matter. My family has high mortality in marriages and growing up, I became very conscious and wary of falling prey to relationships that would fizzle. My late and beloved uncle even told me that in our family, marriages don’t last so I had to find a man that I would stay in love with for the rest of my life. That stuck in my head…
I dated my ex-boyfriend (now my hubby hahaha) since 1991. We started as acquaintance, became friends, and bam, next thing I know it, we were in the courtship zone. Our relationship wasn’t always that rosy. Heck, we fought most of the time because we had our differences, and we still do up to this day. However, one way of having a peaceful life together is to accept each other’s differences. We did.
Our differences make our marriage exciting. Sometimes it’s fun and there are times that those differences can be very challenging. We try to make it work and respect each other. I guess, the foundation of our marriage is based on love, respect, and trust for each other.
We’re not the typical husband and wife tandem. Our social life revolves in different polars. He likes stuff that I hate. I love things that he doesn’t understand. He’s the Mr. Congeniality and I am the snob. He loves parties, and I prefer to read books at home. He is the super outgoing and I am the homebody. He is not the romantic kind but I am the hopeless romantic. I am artsy and he’s very hands-on. But we both love to TRAVEL! Yet, we still get along. We are the classic poster children of “Opposite Poles Attract.” It’s that mutual respect and understanding that we already developed being together that keeps the relationship going. It may not work for some but it works for us. We have agreed to disagree on our differences and then we move on.
Staying in love is not a walk in the park. It’s like walking on the moon, you don’t know what to expect. We don’t have a perfect marriage. At times, he drives me nuts and I want to smack him sometimes but at the end of the day, he’s the only one I want to be with. He makes me laugh most of the time. He gets my craziness and bears with me with a smile. He is patient with me even and knows when to ignore me. He lets me be. He may not be the perfect man nor the knight in shining armor I have cooked up in my head but he is my man.
Celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary is like an achievement that I can happily claim. It’s not easy to stay in love, make the marriage work, and still enjoy each other’s company (even if I know I bore him at times). But one thing I can say is, my hubby completes me.
Here’s to the next 20 and more years of togetherness!
(MY FB post for dear hubby!)
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