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I have had my fair share of failed friendships. Some of them were my fault and others not. Maintaining a friendship with people you like should not be so hard but with the enormous pressure of other people, personality differences and beliefs, attitudes, characters and values, it can also succumb to the pressure.
Being in a friendship is like being in a relationship. You have to nurture it no matter how many you are in the group. Everybody should pitch in to make the friendship blossom just like every relationship around.
Friendship is vital in fulfilling one’s social life and happiness but what if it’s something that’s dragging you down? Is it worth saving?
If you’ll ask me, I think there are friendships worth fighting for and there are those that just fizzle and you just let go. Sometimes, some of your friends will drive you to the edge and test your patience. Oftentimes, you keep giving and still, some of your friends will disregard you or do not even respect how you feel. Those are the things that will make me turn my back and leave. I love myself too and I respect my being. If a so-called friend does not respect me at all or just shove my feelings aside, then it’s a no brainer. I’ll walk away and never come back. The last thing I want to be is in an abusive friendship zone.
Some friends will make you their shock absorber. Fine! Stick with them because you’re a true friend but if they keep on doing it and they expect you to keep accepting their negativity and foul attitude, put an end to that because that is not being friends. That is your so-called friend “abusing” you. Let that person go. He or she is not worthy to be your friend. Stop being in the receiving end of someone so inconsiderate in your life. You deserve people who will lift your spirits up and make you feel important because that’s what real friends do.
So, if you find yourself in a friendship where it is already becoming toxic, walk away. You deserve to have good friends who will make you happy, respected, accepted for who you are and are positive influence in your life.
You know in your heart if you’ve been a sincere friend or not. And if you believe that no matter what you do, it just doesn’t work out anymore then end the friendship. It’s their loss not yours.
You’ll find other people out there who will fill the space of those so-called friends. It’s 2014. You can clean up some slots for people who deserve those spaces in your life.
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oh that’s just what i did, i mean, i stop going with the person whom i thought is my true friend here, never thought she’ll talk behind my back after all those years and now my life is even better.
January 16, 2014 at 10:08 pmI think in any relationship even with friendship if it feels to heavy, let it go. Good relationships are the one that uplifts us and not pull us down.
January 17, 2014 at 5:26 am“So, if you find yourself in a friendship where it is already becoming toxic, walk away. ”
I do! I’ve had my fair share of friends like that, too, and I’m sure I’ll meet some more.
“You deserve to have good friends who will make you happy, respected, accepted for who you are and are positive influence in your life.”
Glad I met you sistah!
January 17, 2014 at 10:16 amDitto sis Liza… Ditto! Glad we met. 🙂
January 21, 2014 at 2:35 pmAgree completely with your sentiments sistah, I have a fair share too and that taught me a lesson so now careful na ako to let people get close to me. It’s frustrating to get advantaged of.
January 17, 2014 at 1:24 pmSo true, Ria. I am also doing some “spring cleaning” . I have lots of fair weather friends and they are “sort of” my friends na lang hihi
January 17, 2014 at 2:00 pmHahaha, may category na ganun sis? “Sort of friends?” 🙂 My principle kasi sis, I’m done being a doormat. I’m done being the nice person. I’m done being the giver all-the-time. Friendship is also a relationship. It has to run both ways. If I think it’s already becoming a one-way street, then I leave. There’s no point investing my emotions and time to some so-called friend/s who does/do not deserve me.
January 21, 2014 at 2:35 pmFriendship is a relationship given by God, it has its ups and downs too. With the trials and struggles that friends go through it helps polish and nurture and deepen what they have called friendship. True friends stick to the end no matter what and is willing to forgive and look past on each differences. I have many friends who have hurt me in the past but then comes forgiveness and still friends…I have let go some too because they were bad influence and does not want to change for good. Those kind of friends will just bring you down to the ground lol. Proverbs talk a lot about choosing the right friends
January 17, 2014 at 4:50 pmThank you for the insight Jhady. I value friendships like I value keeping my family. Sometimes, it just doesn’t work out the way you want it to be because either of the party changes.
January 21, 2014 at 2:33 pmI don’t have a problem ditching those who are in the category of fair weathered friends.
January 17, 2014 at 11:58 pmDitto sis. I hear yah. Nakakapagod kasi yung paulit-ulit na ikaw na lng ang nagu-understand sa kanila; that everything is just about them. You just get tired. I do…
January 21, 2014 at 2:31 pmHi friend hehehe Im thankful to be a friend of yours and of course my drinking buddy, your husband 🙂 I hope Im one of your friends worth fighting for hehehe Love you kapatid.
January 18, 2014 at 4:54 amKapatid nga kita eh! hahaha…. Of course kapatid. I am very happy that we are friends, and just friends ha, “real friends” 🙂 I’m so happy that you and Ces came to our lives and made it more fun.
January 21, 2014 at 2:30 pmto prevent ending friendship, I think it is important to know the level of friendship or emotion you will invest to people 🙂
January 21, 2014 at 1:45 amAgree ako dyan Mommy Pehpot. But sometimes, you start out as really true friends and sometimes, one person just change.
January 21, 2014 at 2:32 pm