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Taking the Opportunity

They said, “Opportunity knocks only once.” In my case, it had knocked many times before but I kept mum about opening the door. I am either scared or I just don’t have faith as big as a mountain. Either way, I have let many opportunities pass only to regret later in my life.

There are opportunities that I have gladly accepted but I stirred my boat wrongly. I didn’t give much thought about them and was half-heartedly committing only because they became more of an obligation than something I could enjoy with.

I even prayed for opportunities to come my way. I answered some but then again, I was not putting my effort. I was rushing. I was impatient. I wanted to see results right away.

This time, the opportunity came when I least expected it. My friend actually approached me to review the products she is offering because I am a blogger and I do product reviews as well. So I said yes. Then I asked questions about the products, she gave me information about them and next thing I know it, I am a part of her team. Yes. It was a lengthy conversation about beauty and skin care products that got me hooked and I am glad that I did.

The thing is, I am a very skeptical person. I am very analytical, and I must understand every detail of something before I can put my personal stamp on it. In this case, I have heard of the brand before. I was still young when I heard of it. And because then, the brand seemed so elusive and exclusive, I didn’t give much thought about it. Until I became a part of the same brand I tried avoiding. Again, I am glad I signed up. I am still learning the ropes because I am just 3 weeks old in the company but I know one day, I can become a leader here. I would love that!

You see, opportunities like this one comes rarely in your lifetime. You either let it pass or you grab it by the horns. I have let this pass before and it came back to me unexpectedly. I did pray for God’s guidance and providence to lead me to a good opportunity where I can see myself, my family, my friends, and my new found teammates grow. And if there’s one thing I have learned about this whole process is to take the opportunities that come your ways as blessings. Not everyone has been given that honor to respond to a calling, no matter what that is.

It’s too early to say what will happen. I am just being very hopeful and positive. I feel I deserve this break after what I have been through. I am also praying that I will continue to enjoy this new endeavor for a long, long time.

Thanks to Nu Skin for giving me something to hope for. I pray that all my dreams will come true with your help.

The road to success is still long, and far. But I know someday, I will surely get there.

 

 

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May 6, 2017
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Girl Boss

Yes, that’s what I want to call myself in the near future. I plan to retire early but my retirement fund is still way too little for me to enjoy the comforts of life and the fruits of my labour.

I have been engaging in many activities to boost my passive income. So far, my blogging tops the list but the money that comes sometimes trickles and sometimes it pours. It is not very constant, much to my disappointment but happy to have some extra to help pay the bills. I have joined another money-making business opportunity that I hope one day, will really bring in the money in the coffer. I don’t want to stop tapping what I have a good feeling about.

Success doesn’t come easy. I have been trying my luck in many fields and so far, I am still working my bottoms off to make them work. I just hope, all my efforts, time, and passion are not put into waste.

I definitely want to be a girl boss someday. I need that break!

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April 7, 2017
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My Christmas Wishlist for 2016

I always have a secret wishlist every Christmas, year after year. I never really tell anyone about them until now. I felt, I had to let them out and send them to the universe! Maybe Santa Claus or a generous sponsor will anonymously present me with any of the items I need (or maybe all! hahahaha!).

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(Artwork by ©Ria Cervantes/themommalogues.com)

Items:

  • iPad Pro
  • Apple pen
  • iMac
  • Calligraphy pen set
  • Tombow Dual Brush Pens

 

I need all of them actually for my “biz plan.” I have been diligently practising on my craft, learning online, reading books, and practising some more. I need to hone my skills in hand lettering, sketching, doodling, and watercolour art.

I want to be able to put up an e-commerce business by 2018-2019, before I retire from the corporate world. I want to be my own boss. I want to open up jobs for others and I want to work from home. And as early as now, I am paving my way to get there. It’s not easy but every victory is shrouded with thorns, right?

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And this will be my home office! 🙂 (Photo credit: tifaq.com)

So yes, I need them. They are not “want” but “need.” Good luck to me!

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October 14, 2016
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My Love For Arts And Crafts

I always tell myself that I am in the wrong profession. I should have been an arts teacher or an illustrator or graphic designer or anything that will involve colours, arts, crafts and anything in between. I have dabbled in arts and crafts for as long as I can remember. But it is only now that I am really taking it seriously. I am not sure what brought about it but I just noticed that when Millie and my mom passed away, I have this void I have to fill. And it’s with arts and craft where I can feel full and at peace.

I have been doing a lot of artsy things in my part time lately. I have been brushing up on watercolour techniques, practising on my hand lettering, reading books on graphic design, and teaching myself Photoshop and Illustrator. There’s a lot in my plate right now but mind you, these things make me happy.

I keep telling my hubby that I am happier at home than at work. I feel my peace when I look at my watercolours, colourful pens, beautiful patterned papers and books. Just being at home gives me that calm feeling that I don’t feel at work.

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(I have started reading books pertaining to what I want to do after I retire from the corporate world. And that will be in the near future, maximum 2020. If I extend, then that means, I needed more funds but once I decide I have had it, then it will be around 2020, before I turn 50. I have lots of learning to do. So, this July, I will embark on my Advance Graphic Design course online. It’s going to be almost 3 months of online study so, I hope I really learn a lot and pick up lots of techniques while I figure out what to do.)

 

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(This is my brush lettering using Kuretake Wink of Stella brush pen. I love how smooth it writes with small speck of fairy glitters. 🙂 I am also learning how to do modern calligraphy though I am not 100% into it. I just want to be able to do hand lettering well so when I create my own creative studio, I won’t rely on other talents’ skills to be able to create my own fonts, graphics, illustrations, designs, etc.)

 

Well, it’s just few years to go and hopefully, all my dreams will come true by 2020. I don’t intend to stay long in the corporate scene. My mind and heart tells me to pursue my passion. So, my business endeavours will most likely be related to what I love to do best – arts!

Some of my watercolour drawings:

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This is a tribute to my mom. It’s how I saw her in my dreams lately. I still have a lot of techniques to learn in drawing and watercolour art. I don’t know how to draw using perspective, lights, shadowing, profiles. All I know is I can draw what I see in a “flat” manner. I would be happy to learn how to add dimension to my drawings and colourings.

Photo not mine

Photo not mine

Is there a passion that you love to do? What is it? Are you already earning from your passion? Please share and I will be happy to learn from your journey to achieve your goals.

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June 10, 2016
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Boy Talk


Photo credit: marketingtechblog.com

Photo credit: marketingtechblog.com

 

I never thought the day would actually come when it’s time to talk about “boys” with my daughter. She’s turning 18 in “few” days so technically, she will be a part of society’s young adults.

I always pride myself for raising a kid who is not shy to ask questions even the sensitive topics because in our family, we make it a point to discuss things as rational as possible and as truthful as it can be. We’ve discussed many things already before about infatuation but none prepared me for the moment when we are elevating our discussion to the topic of “courtship.” Yes, the word has been dropped – courtship or in the Philippines, we call this “panliligaw.”

Well, my heart started beating fast and my gut must have been in a knot when my daughter asked if it was ok if someone starts courting her since she is turning 18 in few days. I had to pause for a while and re-read her question over and over for what seems like an eternity. Courtship. That word floated in my head again. I panicked a bit because I remember all the stuff I did when I was barely 18. No, I wasn’t a goody-goody two shoes girl. I had a bit of naughtiness too BUT (in my defence!), I certainly knew my priorities. I knew my studies was at the top of the list of my goals. I knew I couldn’t do any hanky-panky. There was no kissing nor holding hands. It was just plain, young and innocent love. I was aware that if my parents caught me about this “dating thing at 3rd year HS,” I was almost certain that my parents would hang me upside down. Would I want my daughter to hide something from me the way I did with my parents? Of course not.

I have been open to my daughter about the things I had done in the past and those included the mistakes, the wrong decisions, the pain of breaking up, being betrayed and hurt, and the secrets I have kept from my parents only to find out later in life that my parents knew all along that I was lying. It hurt them and I certainly wouldn’t like to feel that way especially from my daughter. So, I asked myself, “is it really okay to let her enter the stage of courtship in her young adult life?” Honestly and as a mother, I hope I won’t be thought as a consenting parent but I can’t be a hypocrite. I had a boyfriend when I was only 17 so who am I to talk? I should be able to talk the talk and walk the walk but I can’t. So, to answer her question, “I leave the decision to you anak.” That’s  what I told her. But I did ask her to tell her Papa too. We wouldn’t want her dad to be left out on this milestone. And looking at how my husband is taking all these, I think he also knew that he couldn’t preach like a preacher. My husband and I were sweethearts when I was 19 and he was 21. So, I guess we just have to pray that our daughter is sensible, knows her values, and will not hide anything from us.

The moment my daughter told me about this young fellow who is courting her enabled my protective maternal instinct on. I asked plenty of questions about the guy, his background, what his parents do, where is he from, etc. etc. I guess that is just normal. I remember my dad asking me the same thing when my husband officially courted and visited me at home. It’s a “parent-thing” to be fussy about this dating thing because we all have been there. We know how it goes. And most certainly, we only want the best for our daughter.

I am happy in a way that my daughter respects us enough to include us in her young adult life. I am glad she opened up about this courtship thing because at least, I know she is blooming into a fine young lady. I just pray that she will be true to herself and never let crazy, young love get in the way of her studies. I think it is fair for us parents to ask her to focus on her studies while being courted. For one, she is very young and the world is her oyster.

So, the inevitable topic of courtship has sprung. I thought I will never have to hear it until she graduates but hey, I gave birth to a lovely kid so, it’s just natural for young guys to fall in “like or love” with her. 🙂

Ah, to be young…

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February 5, 2016
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Happy New Year! Happy New ME!

Well, I bid 2015 a bitter-sweet good bye. It’s time to let go of the past and move on…

I remember entering 2015 with hope and positivity. I am not sure what happened along the way when things got a little shaky and all I could remember was feeling rueful for many, many mistakes and decisions I have made in the past that weren’t favourable to what I wanted to achieve.

I remember towards the middle part of 2015 being extremely sad to the point of losing hope in many things. I didn’t get the promotion I wanted (this was early 2015). I got by-passed in many undertakings in our department. I had to deal with the financial pressure of providing for my family back home. I had to scour the web for paid tasks. I had severed ties with some people (well, to my defence, it was a good decision to purge my life of negative people wearing me down) in my circle (both in the office and personal). My mom was in ICU for more than a week. My brother had personal problems. There were just too many to deal with in one given time.

I clammed more. I went out less. I communicated seldom. I practically went almost hermitical because I preferred to be alone and silent in those trying months were my methods of coping and dealing with personal issues I couldn’t share with anyone. I was also missing my daughter so much whom I have shared my inner thoughts and feelings with. I always tell my sentiments to her and even if I knew those words fell in deaf ears at times, I knew she was just right there to listen when she wanted to. But since she went back to the Philippines for her collegiate studies, I was left most part of the days alone with my diva dog. I am pretty sure my husband didn’t even know what I was going through. And to top it all, I think I entered the “silent passage” of menopausal too. The raging hormones are just crazy, even to this day. I was confused. I was lonely. I was bitter. I was sad. But most of all, I felt I was lost.

And then, to while away my time at home after office hours, I opened up my Etsy store which didn’t make much sales except for one. Although it was too soon to close it (I opened only for a month), I wasn’t ready to pay for the monthly fees when there wasn’t much sales coming. I had to fold soon before I incur losses. So, another one of my dreams bit the dust.

Then the later part of 2015 got me thinking. What was I sad about? My failures? My inadequacies? My financial quagmires? The elusive promotion at work? The lack of family support and close friends? What was I really sad about? Then I had to do some soul searching. I finally realised, I wasn’t focusing on the better parts of what had happened in 2015. I was just a one-track minded girl who wallowed on the pains and was ungrateful.

So, forward to 2016… I left 2015 right were it should be – in the past. I have learned to let go of some things that I pursued that were perhaps not meant to be mine, for example, the career growth. I stopped applying for promotions because I guess, my health is more important that having extra thousands of dirhams added in my bank account. I think, God is telling me to just take good care of my health first and the rest will just fall into place. Now, I will follow HIM. I know His plans are better than mine. So, even if I am one to believe in never, ever giving up on your dreams, sometimes, letting them go for the better good is something I will be willing to compromise with. I am happier now with that decision. There’s no pressure in climbing the corporate ladder. I think I am just tired doing that. I have better things to do with my personal life and that is where I will focus my attention to.

I learned to accept my individuality. I no longer want to please people. If they don’t like me, so be it. I am not going to deal with hypocrites because it’s not worth my time and effort. I have people around me who deserve my attention more than those simpletons do. So, I am moving on whether they like me or not.

Now, I am going to focus more on how to earn extra money with my blogs. I have been a bit of a slacker last year with my blogs. I didn’t have the energy at all to post regularly. I had missed some paid tasks which had never happened in the past years but 2015 was very different. I was really very sad for some time. I had to snap out of it.

So, this 2016, I will focus more on what are the essentials in my life: my family, my health, my close friends, my pet, my blogging activities, and my passion to create handmade crafts. And if you will notice, I have removed the career out of the equation. I think and feel I am more at peace now ever since I have let go of my career advancement goals. I felt not being pressured to accept more responsibilities when I already have so much on my plate. I have learned to let go and move one.

This year, it is all about empowerment, accepting my flaws, learning to appreciate even the littlest of things, expressing my gratitude more, complaining less, laughing harder, crying lesser, and loving more. Also, if the budget allows, I will travel more.

Right now, I just don’t care about the other people sucking my energy and might. I will just focus more on what is more beautiful and precious.

Life’s too short to wallow in regrets and bitterness. This is something I have realised. No matter how hard I try, if it wasn’t meant to be then it wasn’t meant to be. I have stopped pushing for the plans I have made for myself but have learned to follow what He has made for me. I don’t normally discern what God always tell but in the grand scheme of things, I know those plans will be presented to me in His perfect time.

For now, it’s just the 3rd day of the new year and I still have 362 blank pages to fill, hopefully with good thoughts and life’s experience. So, Happy New Year! Happy New Me!

 

Photo credit: Briantracy.com

Photo credit: Briantracy.com

 

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January 3, 2016
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Harnessing the Creativity Back

It’s been so long since I got a trickle of my creative juice going. It’s not in full force but glad it’s coming back. I guess, having my daughter here for several months for her long summer break gave me the impetus to grab a pen and paper and start doodling, drawing, delve on hand lettering and typography.

I knew my craftiness will lead me to other stuff I can do to while away my time and also to explore possibilities of opening my creative studio one day, with the help of my daughter who is into Multimedia Arts and my younger brother who is keen to sharpen his skills in Photoshop. The three of us will be at the helm of my e-commerce business.

My passion for arts will pave way to our creative studio. I am already aiming to open a mini-shop for my printed crafts in Etsy this year until I sort out the logistics of shipping, the costs, the items to sell that I can actually make, and the time that I will have to put in during after work to fulfil this dream. They are not much but they are CUTE! After that, I hope to be able to create graphics to sell and I am really spending time on this one because I have to hone my skills in drawing, sketching and doodling. All the 3 elements I have mentioned will be vital part of making the products I will sell eventually.

My dreams are not lofty but they are driven by passion and the ready skills’ set that my daughter and I already have. We just have to practice more, attend seminars and workshops, and even attend gatherings and exhibitions in the future to network and get ideas.

I am excited on this creativity business. I hope it will help bring extra income and create jobs for others. And maybe soon, I will become my own boss. AMEN to that!

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August 24, 2015
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